30 things to have and know by 30
By 30, you should
have:
1. One old boyfriend
you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of
furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect
to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a
suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re
content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy
enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization
that you are actually going to have an old age—and
some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An e-mail
address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to
but you.
9. A résumé that is
not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who
always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of
screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
12. Something
ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve
it.
13. The belief that
you deserve it.
14. A skin-care
regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets
of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on
a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of
life that do get better.
By 30, you should
know:
1. How to fall in
love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel
about having kids.
3. How to quit a
job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try
harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a
way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen
next.
6. The names of: the
secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live
alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. How to take
control of your own birthday.
9. That you can’t
change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your
parents.
10. That your
childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would
and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets
away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can
trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize
for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life
begins at 30.